My Monday Metrical Musings #78

Don't stop walking I see youI doI hope you can knowSomedayThat I felt your daddy's heartacheAs he led you firmly by the handWalking nondescript down the laneHoping no one sees you twoHoping if not to endThen to at least fadeOut of sight Out of mindFrom prying eyes and furtive stares You looked miserable in your … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #78

Are fathers more “next-of-kin”, “next-of-skin” or “‘neath-the-skin”?

I remember as a kid, when school enrolment or administration moments come around, we would have to fill up among other things details of a next-of-kin in case of emergencies. For that, I would typically put down my father's name. This went on for pretty much all of my academic life as I progressed from … Continue reading Are fathers more “next-of-kin”, “next-of-skin” or “‘neath-the-skin”?

Parenting Woes #1 — A new mini-series

Recently I attended yet another webinar about parenting. I hate to admit it, but every time I do I find myself wondering: why am I here?And why are parenting woes never ending? Also, why are the questions parents ask at such gatherings almost always the same? Like endless loops acrobats leap through? Or the cycles … Continue reading Parenting Woes #1 — A new mini-series

A plea for caregiving fathers of special needs kids

[An edited version of this post first appeared here] "No Lord! Not again! This can't be happening..." These words blazed across my brain like a lightning bolt out of the blue. Last Friday, the bodies of twin boys were recovered in a canal not far from a park and playground. (At the time of this … Continue reading A plea for caregiving fathers of special needs kids

Daily living with autism #2: Surmounting milestones

When parenting a boy with disability, one constant concern is this: will he clear age-appropriate milestones in time? I'm no different. With my autistic son, it's always at the back of my mind, this fear he won't mature in time to enjoy what his neuro-typical peers take for granted. These could be things like confidently … Continue reading Daily living with autism #2: Surmounting milestones

My Monday Metrical Musings #60

Always close to you my son Always close to you my sonThat's where I wanna beAlways close to you my sonForever the best day for me. Always close to you my sonYou've given me new meaningAlways close to you my sonYour presence keeps life humming. Always close to you my sonThough soon you'll need your … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #60

A letter to Seamus — “Son, daddy will be ok.”

Below's a love letter from a devoted father to his son. It is the second guest post on my blog (do click here for the first). This is a deeply personal piece from someone I got to know while touring Israel at the end of 2018. I feel deeply humbled and honored he's allowed me … Continue reading A letter to Seamus — “Son, daddy will be ok.”

Father-son bonding #2 — Rites of Passage

Hey J my precious son, Since my first post about it, I'm getting both excited and nervous as I start planning our December staycay. Truth is, I've never in a million years thought I would be undertaking such an ambitious project -- to take us away for a father-son bonding retreat. Just us two. To … Continue reading Father-son bonding #2 — Rites of Passage

My Violin Virtuoso — From Verve to Vitriol

Dear J my precious boy First off, I'm sorry. I had no idea you felt so much vitriol now for the violin. Recently, when we broached the topic of you returning to violin lessons after a long break (to prepare for your PSLE), your almost knee-jerk reaction and rejection of the idea threw your mom … Continue reading My Violin Virtuoso — From Verve to Vitriol