Father-son bonding #1 — “Now that exams are done, …”

Hey J my precious son, First and foremost, CONGRATULATIONS! After six long years of primary school education, you're finally done with that Holy Grail of a gruelling national examination (the PSLE or Primary School Leaving Examinations). That which forever decides which secondary school you'll go to next year. Of course it's only the first of … Continue reading Father-son bonding #1 — “Now that exams are done, …”

How to retire well #3 of 3: Make and keep friends!

Here's the last of my three posts on the topic of how to retire well.(Click here for posts 1 and 2) If you've stayed with me this far, a big thanks cos you're taking a big chance with someone who's still working this out! Then again, as with any life hack or self-help writeup, readers … Continue reading How to retire well #3 of 3: Make and keep friends!

How to retire well #2 of 3: Know who you are and what you love

So last week I started this mini-series to talk about how to retire well. You do that you know, when you're like me; a man past 50, increasingly living on borrowed time! In that post, I talked about the first of three important truths I've come to embrace: If we don't want to suffer retirement … Continue reading How to retire well #2 of 3: Know who you are and what you love

How to retire well #1 of 3: Have a plan “with legs”

Two days from now is the annual UN International Day of Older Persons and one thing remains unchanged. Despite the inevitability of it, few of us bother to plan for the day we retire. Until recently, I would include myself in that unfortunate lot. Why unfortunate? Studies show many of us who fail to plan … Continue reading How to retire well #1 of 3: Have a plan “with legs”

Mental Wellbeing #2 of 2: Parents, listen without prejudice!

Last week I wrote about the unfortunate, ongoing trend of parents who don't listen to their kids, invariably leading many of them into depression. Or worse. Today, I want to share some practical strategies to help parents, should mental health issues ever surface in our children. It'll also be my way to archive valuable info … Continue reading Mental Wellbeing #2 of 2: Parents, listen without prejudice!

Mental Wellbeing #1 of 2: Parents, we must listen. Now!

Yesterday was World Suicide Prevention Day. It takes place every year on September 10. Three days ago, I posted about one possible emerging trend related to suicide. One that, if not addressed, might make matters worse for grown men everywhere (feel free to check it out here if you've yet to). Today I want to … Continue reading Mental Wellbeing #1 of 2: Parents, we must listen. Now!

Parenting Motivations #3 – Demolishing the “teen wall”!

This past week, I hit a wall. I'm calling it the "teen wall"! You see, I can no longer deny it. I do indeed have a teenager living under my roof now. And to top it all off, it's of the male persuasion too! A double whammy for me. I still remember a time when … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #3 – Demolishing the “teen wall”!

Parenting Motivations #2 – Never “take your eyes off the prize”

When my wife and I first made C's glasses 26 months ago, the lenses were at 200 degrees (each!). No doubt high for an eight-year-old. But since we ourselves were bespectacled (his brother too), it wasn't surprising. Disappointing yes, but not surprising. Sadly, four days ago, we were dealt another blow when we visited the … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #2 – Never “take your eyes off the prize”

Parenting Motivations #1 – Watching kids blossom through public speaking

Of late I've been thinking about public speaking and what motivates me as a parent. In particular, I've been pondering this past week whether my motivation to teach students public speaking, and my motivation to parent, are one and the same. And I'm inclined to say "Yes"! Well, actually the art of public speaking is … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #1 – Watching kids blossom through public speaking