About

With my gang outdoors (picture taken at East Coast Park in my country Singapore, 2021)

Greetings! Welcome to kelvinsmusings.com!

I’m Kelvin from sunny Singapore where I live with my lovely wife and two boys, born 2009 and 2011.

In this blog www.kelvinsmusings.com, I muse about…
1. …my unfinished journey as a husband & father of two sons (the youngest with autism),
2. … parenting & family values
, and how to advocate for them,
3. …the ups & downs of my writing experience, and
4. …issues dealing with work, education (I teach part-time
), society & life.

(A fuller explanation of my blog’s genesis and purpose can be found here)

If you would like to find more details about me, do check out my first:
1. blog post
2. full-fledged online interview
3. local daily news feature (a free version available here)

Since 2019, I’ve taken part in numerous conversations, forums, engagement sessions, in-depth interviews and autism-related research studies with local institutions like the Ministry of Education (29 Sep 2020), Institute of Policy Studies (14 June 2022), and the Institute of Mental Health’s Child Guidance Clinic (16 June 2022).

I’ve also been approached regularly to speak on issues involving fatherhood, family, and society (some arguably controversial!).

These have led to appearances on various podcasts, radio, TV programmes and news features, namely:
1. The Institute of Policy Studies‘ podcast IPS On Diversity (Season 2 Episode 2, published 28 Dec 2021), where I spoke about masculinity and my journey as a stay home dad
2. national broadcaster Mediacorp’s parenting podcast Hey Mama!
…2021 Season 2 Episode 4, published 26 Oct on being a stay home dad;
…2022 Season 3 Episode 2, published 21 Apr on caring for special needs kids; &
…2022 Season 3 Episode 4, published 19 May on schooling stress.
3…and radio programmes
Weekend Life (13 Jun 2021),
Money Mind (13 Feb 2020) &
Night Life (30 Jan 2020)
4. as well as Mediacorp’s TV programme Talking Point in
…2015 &
2014
5. and a double-bill news feature (2022) — a news article & a video interview — on the issue of toxic masculinity.

Students from various local educational institutions have also interviewed me for tertiary school projects about autism and stay home dads. They include:
> Singapore Polytechnic (June 2020 & Apr 2022),
> Victoria Junior College (July 2020),
> River Valley High School (Sep 2020),
> Nanyang Technological University‘s Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information (Sep 2021), and
> Singapore University of Social Sciences or SUSS (23 Oct 2021) supported by SG Assist

Heck, I’ve even been (see screen grabs below) the subject of a mini Instagram campaign in July 2022 to #redefinemasculinity (Thanks BBH Singapore and your interns Ong Tze Kym (NTU WKW School), Kirianne Lim (NUS Sociology), and Kang Jingyi (NTU Business School) for selecting me as the face of your campaign)!

Since April 2019, I upload a blog post two to three times a week. You can also find my writings in:
1. The Straits Times on
> 20 Mar 2021Better for all parties to work together to address bullying
> 19 Oct 2020Right to disconnect law needed as working from home picks up
> 6 Nov 2018, and before
2. Todayonline
> 18 Jun 2021 It wasn’t easy to convince myself I am ‘masculine and useful’ as a stay-home dad
> 3 Apr 2021Give prompt notice to residents on lift maintenance work
3. CaringSG blog site (CaringSG is a caregiver-led initiative for special needs caregivers and the community)
4. SaltAndLight on
> 11 Aug 2022 “Beyond dreams, Netflix’s The Sandman unravels a societal problem we’re afraid to confront.”
> 24 Jan 2022My son who has special needs just turned 11; my heart aches
> 28 Nov 2021Letter from a father to his son after the PSLE results
> 27 Jul 2021Tragedy and grief in our schools, but the language of friendship speaks healing and hope
> 6 Apr 2021Learning to accept my son’s autism: a father’s continuing journey
> 21 Sep 2020Staying at home for my son with autism: one dad adjusts to life without a job title
5. thir.st on
> Valentines Day 2021Happy Valentines Day: a letter from a dad to a son
> Father’s Day 2020Please Lord can I have 50 more Fathers Days?
6. The New Age Parents, Jun 2020Father’s Day Special: Why Fatherhood is An Honour

If any of my writings strike a chord with you, please like them and drop me a comment at the end of my posts ok? I would love to know how my blog posts resonate with you (or not!).

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Thank you, and happy reading!