A “council of wise men” for my sons?

Ever since Avengers Endgame, I've taken to telling my sons each night before bedtime that I love them "3,000". Those who watched the film will know what I mean. {For those who didn't, stay with me til the end of this post and I'll tell you.} Since they were babies, I've always tucked my boys … Continue reading A “council of wise men” for my sons?

To be a better caregiver, I must flip my day for night!

As a parent and caregiver, I don't always realise it until my sons are fast asleep at night, so busy am I throughout the day fleeting to meet first one child's needs, then the other's (and back again!). But when the lights are out and my boys are finally in bed, I start to feel … Continue reading To be a better caregiver, I must flip my day for night!

A Tragic Musing – More than words can say

[With permission granted to Salt&Light, a version of this post titled "Tragedy and grief in our schools, but the language of friendship speaks healing and hope" also appeared on 27 July 2021 here] Usually, I alternate my Saturday blogs strictly between the topics of autism and parenting. But this has been a week like no … Continue reading A Tragic Musing – More than words can say

‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

On Father’s Day 2021, my musings on the losses and gains of being a stay home dad {A version of this post first appeared here in a local news publication Todayonline. Also, check out a reader's beautifully written and resonating response to my piece here.}When it comes to parenting, one truth remains today: Fathers are, … Continue reading ‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

Clinging to childhood with legos and lightsabers!

"A long time ago, in a galaxy far far away...." These now-immortal words really need no introduction. Certainly for my first-born J, Star Wars: A New Hope, began for him an adventure and a love that's stayed for more than half his lifetime now (he turned 12 last month). Yes, he definitely has me to … Continue reading Clinging to childhood with legos and lightsabers!

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

Hey boys This is it! We made it. The last email, in this long-running series that began more than six months ago, is finally here. So on the count of three, let's heave a collective sigh of relief shall we? One... Two... Three!!! Sighhhhhh.... Alright, now that we got that outta the way, let's recap … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

My blog turns 2! (Part 1 of commemorative)

YEAH ME! This time I did not forget the anniversary of my blog, unlike last year when I nearly did! And this time, since it's the second anniversary, I'm going to write not one but two commemorative posts! You know, it still amazes me how I've persisted this long. While two years may seem like … Continue reading My blog turns 2! (Part 1 of commemorative)

From ‘Aware’ to ‘Accept’ – my unfinished autism journey

[An edited version of this post first appeared here.] C: “Mister Miss Fairy!” Me: “Carrots and Potatoes…” His older brother: “…with Beef Stew!” These are words my sons and I say to each other whenever C is upset, feels threatened, or thinks he’s in trouble. And to diffuse the situation and reassure him, I would respond with the … Continue reading From ‘Aware’ to ‘Accept’ – my unfinished autism journey

Want inclusion for a more gracious society? Restore don’t punish

Last Saturday I wrote a post about my response (as a parent of an autistic son) to a recent bullying incident in my country that received a lot of media attention. The victim in that incident was an autistic teenager who had graduated from the same school my son's now in. An edited version of … Continue reading Want inclusion for a more gracious society? Restore don’t punish

How one special needs father’s response to bullying is about society’s “greater good”

Photo by Morgan Basham on Unsplash As bullying incidents go, the one that made headlines in Singapore this week wasn't unusual. After all, most of us are already predisposed to believe that bullies will always exist, just like bad hair days. And we all know there are more incidents like this not reported or made … Continue reading How one special needs father’s response to bullying is about society’s “greater good”