In July 2019, I started what was supposed to be a regular series to review books written about ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder), a topic close to my heart. That July post also included useful information I put together about different categories of autism books (you can check it out here). Since then, life kinda got in … Continue reading ASD Book Review #2 – How To Be Autistic
Living with my son's autism from day to day teaches me many things - provided I bother to pay attention. Provided I bother to learn. Sadly, I don't. Not enough anyway. For me, arguably the greatest hurdle parenting him all these years, has been to try and come to terms with his fixations. How to … Continue reading What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention
I scolded my eldest boy recently over his schoolwork. And in doing so, I realized I had to bear some responsibility for what happened too. The scolding took place shortly after I found out he tried to hide the results of a recent grammar school homework from me. What he did was to show it … Continue reading What my firstborn’s grammar and schoolwork taught his dad
11 Jul 2030 Hey Dad, How's it goin'? This year 2030, you turn 60. It’s such a big number I can’t even comprehend what it’s like living so long! How do you do it, Dad? Hahaha... Anyway, happy birthday! I hope you liked the hand-drawn birthday card I gave you last week. Remember when I … Continue reading “Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!
At least thrice a week, we take the kids out for a walk. That's the very least we can legally do during this COVID lockdown period, with masks on of course. Other than the obvious health benefits, it's something we parents desperately need. Who can stay indoors 24/7 with kids without going berserk! And let … Continue reading How 5 Whys led to 1 Truth: Why my kid prefers to stay home during COVID
Gosh, I almost missed my blog's first anniversary! Can't blame me though; it's been a month filled with anniversaries. My wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary on the 1st (nope it's no April Fool's joke), and our eldest boy turned 11 on the 8th, inching closer to the potentially tremulous teenage years. In … Continue reading Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary
Want to know how mind-slammingly hard it can be living everyday with kids? How about with a kid that 'gets it' but also doesn’t ‘get it’? Let me explain. You see, it’s kind of hard working with children who have special needs like my Caleb. With him, it’s always a fight to transition to doing … Continue reading Living with Daily Defiance
McDonald’s celebrated Children’s Day* yesterday with an interesting giveaway of a card that says “Make a pledge to share #TheHappiestMeal with your child.” The sub-text adds that parents should give our child the “gift of a lifetime – openness and trust sealed with a pinky promise. Pinky to pinky. Heart to heart.” On the flip … Continue reading 5 Questions on Children’s Day…for me!
If you're a parent like me, you learn pretty fast that things in your life with kids rarely go according to plan. And even more frustrating than that, you learn that most of the time, the actual plan is not only undesirable, it can be downright inconvenient and uncomfortable! But you'll do it anyway, because, … Continue reading How best-laid plans get derailed
Self-determination suggests we are owners and masters of our destiny. Openness suggests we're willing to share and forge that destiny with others. Self-determination suggests that it's all about me, myself and I. Openness suggests that it's about others too. Self-determination suggests it's about me getting ahead, even at the expense of others. Openness suggests it's … Continue reading 200 years on, Self-determination still trumps Openness 42 to 24.