What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention

Living with my son's autism from day to day teaches me many things - provided I bother to pay attention. Provided I bother to learn. Sadly, I don't. Not enough anyway. For me, arguably the greatest hurdle parenting him all these years, has been to try and come to terms with his fixations. How to … Continue reading What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention

“Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!

11 Jul 2030 Hey Dad, How's it goin'? This year 2030, you turn 60. It’s such a big number I can’t even comprehend what it’s like living so long! How do you do it, Dad? Hahaha... Anyway, happy birthday! I hope you liked the hand-drawn birthday card I gave you last week. Remember when I … Continue reading “Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!

How 5 Whys led to 1 Truth: Why my kid prefers to stay home during COVID

At least thrice a week, we take the kids out for a walk. That's the very least we can legally do during this COVID lockdown period, with masks on of course. Other than the obvious health benefits, it's something we parents desperately need. Who can stay indoors 24/7 with kids without going berserk! And let … Continue reading How 5 Whys led to 1 Truth: Why my kid prefers to stay home during COVID

Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary

Gosh, I almost missed my blog's first anniversary! Can't blame me though; it's been a month filled with anniversaries. My wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary on the 1st (nope it's no April Fool's joke), and our eldest boy turned 11 on the 8th, inching closer to the potentially tremulous teenage years.  In … Continue reading Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary

5 Questions on Children’s Day…for me!

McDonald’s celebrated Children’s Day* yesterday with an interesting giveaway of a card that says “Make a pledge to share #TheHappiestMeal with your child.” The sub-text adds that parents should give our child the “gift of a lifetime – openness and trust sealed with a pinky promise. Pinky to pinky. Heart to heart.” On the flip … Continue reading 5 Questions on Children’s Day…for me!

200 years on, Self-determination still trumps Openness 42 to 24.

Self-determination suggests we are owners and masters of our destiny. Openness suggests we're willing to share and forge that destiny with others. Self-determination suggests that it's all about me, myself and I. Openness suggests that it's about others too. Self-determination suggests it's about me getting ahead, even at the expense of others. Openness suggests it's … Continue reading 200 years on, Self-determination still trumps Openness 42 to 24.