I know I’m supposed to offer grace, but I can’t. Not now, not yet. Not when I’m still living through my Waterloo; my daily dose of stay home parenting blues.What am I talking about you ask? I’m talking about “model breadwinning fathers" Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash There are many such "model breadwinning fathers", … Continue reading “Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers
An editor approached me a couple of months back, asking if I would share with her readers my journey as a dad with a special needs child; in particular the period following my son's official ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) diagnosis. My first thought was: "Ok, sure. That diagnosis happened more than two years ago so … Continue reading “Three Wrongs Do Not An Essay Make” – How one memory derailed my writing plan
There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night: "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!" Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance
BANG!That moment just before impact seemed to almost slow to a crawl, like a slow-motion replay, as I watched in utter jaw-dropping disbelief.The way a spectator at an F1 race would watch as a race car suddenly goes off course and flips.I knew what was about to happen, but I was powerless to stop it … Continue reading How a car accident exposed my ‘inner engine’
...hadn't: been trapped in his patriarchal past and so lorded it over us. equated a person's worth ONLY with money and power. given endless lectures because he knew not how else to connect with his family. waxed lyrical about his hometown incessantly, like it was heaven on earth praised his own goodness non-stop, saying he's … Continue reading This Father’s Day, I wish my father…
So what to say about this coming Sunday, my 11th anniversary of celebrating Father's Day as a dad? After all, it's an unfinished journey, so maybe I should wait a few more years to say something meaningful? Or when the kids have all grown up and flown the coop? Yet, as I turn 50 in … Continue reading Please Lord, may I have 50 more Father’s Day?!
Want to know how mind-slammingly hard it can be living everyday with kids? How about with a kid that 'gets it' but also doesn’t ‘get it’? Let me explain. You see, it’s kind of hard working with children who have special needs like my Caleb. With him, it’s always a fight to transition to doing … Continue reading Living with Daily Defiance
Let's face it: perfectly normal dads everywhere would openly admit to it, if they knew we'd keep this a secret from the rest of the macho world. And what secret might that be? Well, dads all love a soppy tribute to fathers, be it a song or a dance or, in this case, a film. … Continue reading Film Review: Looking Up – A Soppy Tribute to Fathers, But I Love It!
On this the first day of 2020, I've decided to break down here what I plan to do with it. For starters, I will prioritise writing on a daily basis, five days a week (Tue - Sat), 750 words each day. No exceptions. I know I've said this on numerous occasions, but it's gotten to … Continue reading 2020: Stitching. Shrinking. Slowing. Sleeping. Silencing. Singling. Searching. Seeking. Surrendering. Saving. Surging. Surpassing.