“An Englishman in Bedok” – Letter to C as he turns 10

Dear C Earlier this week, on the way to school, you started humming along to Sting's "An Englishman in New York" on Spotify. But instead of "New York", you later replaced it with "Bedok", a town twice removed from where we live, and at least two million times removed from the Big Apple herself! When … Continue reading “An Englishman in Bedok” – Letter to C as he turns 10

Connecting Caregivers – finally meeting a very special & overdue need

A small speck in the universe Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com Being part of something bigger is what everyone's experienced at least once in our lives, whether we recognise it then or not. In fact, I would go so far as to say that it's part of every human's DNA that we aspire towards being … Continue reading Connecting Caregivers – finally meeting a very special & overdue need

Three more months and Caleb will be 10. But really, my son with autism is more like 5!

There's something that happens to a parent when his child turns from a single-digit birthday to a double. At least it does for this parent. I'm finding out that as January 2021 approaches, when Caleb turns 10, I seem to be caught up with a feeling of increasing anxiety that I can't quite explain. All … Continue reading Three more months and Caleb will be 10. But really, my son with autism is more like 5!

Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

Looking back, I guess we always suspected Caleb had special needs, which we later found out to be autism. This was a suspicion that we already sensed when he was a baby.  He didn't sleep easily, drank milk with great difficulty, ate little, but cried a lot. Everyone we knew assured us a second child … Continue reading Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

“Three Wrongs Do Not An Essay Make” – How one memory derailed my writing plan

An editor approached me a couple of months back, asking if I would share with her readers my journey as a dad with a special needs child; in particular the period following my son's official ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) diagnosis. My first thought was: "Ok, sure. That diagnosis happened more than two years ago so … Continue reading “Three Wrongs Do Not An Essay Make” – How one memory derailed my writing plan

To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….

As parents, we've all heard this adage more times than we care to count: For kids, LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E. Cos spending time with them is the best sign that we the parents care and love them. Many have even gone on to qualify that it's not just about Quality time; it's also about Quantity … Continue reading To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….