Daily living with autism #7– the 5 love languages

Last week, the topic of love languages arose at a kid's day camp my autistic son C attended. Spanning three days, it was part of our church's holiday programme for those aged 7 to 12. It's been two years since such camps were held (thanks to you-know-what), so my wife and I were definitely glad … Continue reading Daily living with autism #7– the 5 love languages

Daily living with autism #6 — Beginning again. Again!

Let me start by saying I want to put the blame squarely on Covid, and the two years of possible intervention that it has robbed us of. But can I? Honestly? I'm afraid the answer isn't all that clear. What was clear though, after a recent annual follow-up with my son's assigned senior consultant at … Continue reading Daily living with autism #6 — Beginning again. Again!

Daily living with autism #5 — on days it feels like anything but a blessing

Something I read earlier this week about a stranger's caregiving journey filled me with immeasurable sorrow and dread. Someone in a shared group chat on my WhatsApp posted the following text from a stay home dad: "Some of us are more lucky to have higher functioning children. Some of us don’t. Some have children literally … Continue reading Daily living with autism #5 — on days it feels like anything but a blessing

My Monday Metrical Musings #78

Don't stop walking I see youI doI hope you can knowSomedayThat I felt your daddy's heartacheAs he led you firmly by the handWalking nondescript down the laneHoping no one sees you twoHoping if not to endThen to at least fadeOut of sight Out of mindFrom prying eyes and furtive stares You looked miserable in your … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #78

How one fellow stay home dad emancipated me!

A recent incident reminded me that only a fellow stay home dad can truly understand another. One minute a fellow stay home dad and I were catching up over a cuppa to share our respective journeys minding our kids at home. The next minute I was bawling right there in front of my bewildered friend! … Continue reading How one fellow stay home dad emancipated me!

Daily living with autism #4 — A bus ride to Neverland

Yesterday was the last day of the week-long March school holidays, so we figured let's take C for a bus ride. Other than a forgettable morning hike up north three days ago, mired by sweltering heat and a less-than-scenic route, we had spent most of the week at home as the boys completed holiday homework … Continue reading Daily living with autism #4 — A bus ride to Neverland

Autism advocacy #2 — To label or not to label?

Should a person with an invisible disability (PWID) like autism wear a visible identity label in public? So asked a forum contributor in the local dailies. In her letter that was published yesterday, Ms Amy LOH Chee Seen wondered if it would help to stick a label or some sign on a PWID. That way, … Continue reading Autism advocacy #2 — To label or not to label?

Autism advocacy #1 — It starts with enabling

When it comes to helping those in need, I believe it boils down to these four words: Enabling. Empowering. Empathising. Embracing. How did I come to this conclusion? Well, two days ago I joined a nationwide focus group forum to contribute ideas for the new Enabling Master Plan (EMP) 2030. It was the last in … Continue reading Autism advocacy #1 — It starts with enabling

Daily living with autism #3 — School just got harder!

"Daddy, I don't want to go to school!" Words I haven't heard in a long while suddenly rang in my ears. Like some Back to the Future deja vu time loop! What's going on?! I turned around to see my youngest with a face already turning a steady red to match his tear-stained eyes. "Oh … Continue reading Daily living with autism #3 — School just got harder!