Three more months and Caleb will be 10. But really, my son with autism is more like 5!

There's something that happens to a parent when his child turns from a single-digit birthday to a double. At least it does for this parent. I'm finding out that as January 2021 approaches, when Caleb turns 10, I seem to be caught up with a feeling of increasing anxiety that I can't quite explain. All … Continue reading Three more months and Caleb will be 10. But really, my son with autism is more like 5!

Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

Looking back, I guess we always suspected Caleb had special needs, which we later found out to be autism. This was a suspicion that we already sensed when he was a baby.  He didn't sleep easily, drank milk with great difficulty, ate little, but cried a lot. Everyone we knew assured us a second child … Continue reading Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

“Three Wrongs Do Not An Essay Make” – How one memory derailed my writing plan

An editor approached me a couple of months back, asking if I would share with her readers my journey as a dad with a special needs child; in particular the period following my son's official ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) diagnosis. My first thought was: "Ok, sure. That diagnosis happened more than two years ago so … Continue reading “Three Wrongs Do Not An Essay Make” – How one memory derailed my writing plan

To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….

As parents, we've all heard this adage more times than we care to count: For kids, LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E. Cos spending time with them is the best sign that we the parents care and love them. Many have even gone on to qualify that it's not just about Quality time; it's also about Quantity … Continue reading To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….

“Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!

11 Jul 2030 Hey Dad, How's it goin'? This year 2030, you turn 60. It’s such a big number I can’t even comprehend what it’s like living so long! How do you do it, Dad? Hahaha... Anyway, happy birthday! I hope you liked the hand-drawn birthday card I gave you last week. Remember when I … Continue reading “Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!

How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night:    "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!"    Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper    properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

I pray weekly for my special boy in these 7 areas – for his future

Every parent has aspirations and dreams for their children, spoken or otherwise. I'm no exception. What is an exception though is the stuff I hope for when it comes to Caleb. The majority of the world of parents with neurotypical kids can more than reasonably hope for their offsprings to grow up strong, smart, independent, … Continue reading I pray weekly for my special boy in these 7 areas – for his future