Three weeks ago I started a parenting mini-series. To share insights gleaned from workshops I attended this year on how to parent teens. I then followed it up with another entry a week later. That one discussed the emotional, biological, social and relationship changes teens undergo. I ended the piece by mentioning mechanisms that parents like me might incorporate … Continue reading What I learned from parenting workshops #3 — Adaptive mechanism 1: Respect & consideration
I'll Never Be A Dad (circa 2007*) Throngs of tall and short folksInvading my line of sight Playing Frolicking DelightingEnjoying a family day outAt the playground in my 'hood. But me? I'm looking down from my windowAfraid to step out ForlornWonderingLips quiveringLongingUnfulfilledFeels likeFour score and seven years agoSince first we started and desiredYet it seems our turn might never … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #85
Last week I started this new parenting mini-series as a way to document my own learning journey on how to better parent my teenage son. Today, I continue on from there to talk about the myriad of changes that are happening irreversibly, and often imperceptibly, in him! And boy are there many changes indeed when … Continue reading What I learned from parenting workshops #2
One of the things I often hear the older generation tell me is that parenting courses or workshops were non-existent during their time. Instead they just 'learn on the job'. "See, we got through without attending a single parenting course. Yet you young whippersnappers turned out okay no? So why bother attending any?" Actually, I … Continue reading What I learned from parenting workshops #1 — Stages of psychosocial development
I remember as a kid, when school enrolment or administration moments come around, we would have to fill up among other things details of a next-of-kin in case of emergencies. For that, I would typically put down my father's name. This went on for pretty much all of my academic life as I progressed from … Continue reading Are fathers more “next-of-kin”, “next-of-skin” or “‘neath-the-skin”?
A recent incident reminded me that only a fellow stay home dad can truly understand another. One minute a fellow stay home dad and I were catching up over a cuppa to share our respective journeys minding our kids at home. The next minute I was bawling right there in front of my bewildered friend! … Continue reading How one fellow stay home dad emancipated me!
Recently I attended yet another webinar about parenting. I hate to admit it, but every time I do I find myself wondering: why am I here?And why are parenting woes never ending? Also, why are the questions parents ask at such gatherings almost always the same? Like endless loops acrobats leap through? Or the cycles … Continue reading Parenting Woes #1 — A new mini-series
Sonnet #1 - A day at a time Son, I'm learning anewHow to be a dad to youA day at a time Son, I wish to get it rightMore times of good than times of grime A day at a time Son, I hate to fake itJust so I can make it A day at … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #72
The winds have been kinda weird this past week. Blowing beautifully one morning, then disappearing altogether the next. Leaving the air dead still, and me sweltering in this island nation's unrelenting year-round humidity. In a way, it mirrors the world we now live in; news constantly swinging between good and bad, true and false, hope … Continue reading War lesson #1 (of 2) for my sons: Ground convictions in proper research
Ever get this niggling feeling at the back of your mind? Like there's something you need to do or ponder? Maybe it's a message you keep putting off writing cos you don't know what to say or what it's all about? Or you feel it's still too soon to say it, yet it keeps bugging … Continue reading Parenting in reverse #1: my “discomfort” with mom