“Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

I know I’m supposed to offer grace, but I can’t. Not now, not yet.  Not when I’m still living through my Waterloo; my daily dose of stay home parenting blues.What am I talking about you ask? I’m talking about “model breadwinning fathers" Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash There are many such "model breadwinning fathers", … Continue reading “Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary

Gosh, I almost missed my blog's first anniversary! Can't blame me though; it's been a month filled with anniversaries. My wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary on the 1st (nope it's no April Fool's joke), and our eldest boy turned 11 on the 8th, inching closer to the potentially tremulous teenage years.  In … Continue reading Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary

Film Review: LOOKING UP – A Soppy Tribute to Fathers, But I Love It!

Let's face it: perfectly normal dads everywhere would openly admit to it, if they knew we'd keep this a secret from the rest of the macho world. And what secret might that be? Well, dads all love a soppy tribute to fathers, be it a song or a dance or, in this case, a film. … Continue reading Film Review: LOOKING UP – A Soppy Tribute to Fathers, But I Love It!

5 Questions on Children’s Day…for me!

McDonald’s celebrated Children’s Day* yesterday with an interesting giveaway of a card that says “Make a pledge to share #TheHappiestMeal with your child.” The sub-text adds that parents should give our child the “gift of a lifetime – openness and trust sealed with a pinky promise. Pinky to pinky. Heart to heart.” On the flip … Continue reading 5 Questions on Children’s Day…for me!

How best-laid plans get derailed

If you're a parent like me, you learn pretty fast that things in your life with kids rarely go according to plan. And even more frustrating than that, you learn that most of the time, the actual plan is not only undesirable, it can be downright inconvenient and uncomfortable! But you'll do it anyway, because, … Continue reading How best-laid plans get derailed

Losing It #1 — My meltdown, not his!

I lost it yesterday. My meltdown happened quite quickly actually. But looking back now, I can see that I was just a dormant volcano waiting for an excuse to spew lava! The trigger was Caleb's reluctance to come to his study table and do his math homework yesterday afternoon. All because for some reason I … Continue reading Losing It #1 — My meltdown, not his!

Routinely disrupted routines

So here's the thing: conventional wisdom from the sages tells us that autistic kids need routine because it helps regulate daily living for them and minimise anxiety-provoking moments. However from my experience with Caleb, routines are only good in so far as they involve things he likes! We've tried several ways to establish clear routines … Continue reading Routinely disrupted routines

Different Isn’t Less – A Father’s Unfinished Journey

So here it is. What better time than in this annual autism awareness month for me to kickstart my first blog. So here goes: I am a father of a moderately autistic 8 year old boy, and this is my as-yet unfinished journey. A journey that I hope to share not just with other fathers … Continue reading Different Isn’t Less – A Father’s Unfinished Journey