Daily living with autism #2: Surmounting milestones

When parenting a boy with disability, one constant concern is this: will he clear age-appropriate milestones in time? I'm no different. With my autistic son, it's always at the back of my mind, this fear he won't mature in time to enjoy what his neuro-typical peers take for granted. These could be things like confidently … Continue reading Daily living with autism #2: Surmounting milestones

My Monday Metrical Musings #60

Always close to you my son Always close to you my sonThat's where I wanna beAlways close to you my sonForever the best day for me. Always close to you my sonYou've given me new meaningAlways close to you my sonYour presence keeps life humming. Always close to you my sonThough soon you'll need your … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #60

A letter to Seamus — “Son, daddy will be ok.”

Below's a love letter from a devoted father to his son. It is the second guest post on my blog (do click here for the first). This is a deeply personal piece from someone I got to know while touring Israel at the end of 2018. I feel deeply humbled and honored he's allowed me … Continue reading A letter to Seamus — “Son, daddy will be ok.”

Father-son bonding #2 — Rites of Passage

Hey J my precious son, Since my first post about it, I'm getting both excited and nervous as I start planning our December staycay. Truth is, I've never in a million years thought I would be undertaking such an ambitious project -- to take us away for a father-son bonding retreat. Just us two. To … Continue reading Father-son bonding #2 — Rites of Passage

My Violin Virtuoso — From Verve to Vitriol

Dear J my precious boy First off, I'm sorry. I had no idea you felt so much vitriol now for the violin. Recently, when we broached the topic of you returning to violin lessons after a long break (to prepare for your PSLE), your almost knee-jerk reaction and rejection of the idea threw your mom … Continue reading My Violin Virtuoso — From Verve to Vitriol

Father-son bonding #1 — “Now that exams are done, …”

Hey J my precious son, First and foremost, CONGRATULATIONS! After six long years of primary school education, you're finally done with that Holy Grail of a gruelling national examination (the PSLE or Primary School Leaving Examinations). That which forever decides which secondary school you'll go to next year. Of course it's only the first of … Continue reading Father-son bonding #1 — “Now that exams are done, …”

How home-based learning is like “realpolitik”!

Former US President Theodore Roosevelt said the best foreign policy was "speak softly and carry a big stick." Talk about a succinct way to define realpolitik and gunboat diplomacy! I often find that to be true too when it comes to home based learning (HBL) with my son C; at least when it comes to … Continue reading How home-based learning is like “realpolitik”!

“Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

I know I’m supposed to offer grace, but I can’t. Not now, not yet.  Not when I’m still living through my Waterloo; my daily dose of stay home parenting blues.What am I talking about you ask? I’m talking about “model breadwinning fathers" Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash There are many such "model breadwinning fathers", … Continue reading “Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary

Gosh, I almost missed my blog's first anniversary! Can't blame me though; it's been a month filled with anniversaries. My wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary on the 1st (nope it's no April Fool's joke), and our eldest boy turned 11 on the 8th, inching closer to the potentially tremulous teenage years.  In … Continue reading Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary

Film Review: LOOKING UP – A Soppy Tribute to Fathers, But I Love It!

Let's face it: perfectly normal dads everywhere would openly admit to it, if they knew we'd keep this a secret from the rest of the macho world. And what secret might that be? Well, dads all love a soppy tribute to fathers, be it a song or a dance or, in this case, a film. … Continue reading Film Review: LOOKING UP – A Soppy Tribute to Fathers, But I Love It!