Father-son bonding #1 — “Now that exams are done, …”

Hey J my precious son, First and foremost, CONGRATULATIONS! After six long years of primary school education, you're finally done with that Holy Grail of a gruelling national examination (the PSLE or Primary School Leaving Examinations). That which forever decides which secondary school you'll go to next year. Of course it's only the first of … Continue reading Father-son bonding #1 — “Now that exams are done, …”

How home-based learning is like “realpolitik”!

Former US President Theodore Roosevelt said the best foreign policy was "speak softly and carry a big stick." Talk about a succinct way to define realpolitik and gunboat diplomacy! I often find that to be true too when it comes to home based learning (HBL) with my son C; at least when it comes to … Continue reading How home-based learning is like “realpolitik”!

‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

On Father’s Day 2021, my musings on the losses and gains of being a stay home dad {A version of this post first appeared here in a local news publication Todayonline. Also, check out a reader's beautifully written and resonating response to my piece here.}When it comes to parenting, one truth remains today: Fathers are, … Continue reading ‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

Hey boys This is it! We made it. The last email, in this long-running series that began more than six months ago, is finally here. So on the count of three, let's heave a collective sigh of relief shall we? One... Two... Three!!! Sighhhhhh.... Alright, now that we got that outta the way, let's recap … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

Brothers are (almost) as important as parents

Of the few sparks to be found from this still-ongoing global pandemic, one that's definitely making it into my books was watching my sons grow closer to each other as brothers. If nothing else, it made me see anew the plus point of having both my kids being of the same gender, born a mere … Continue reading Brothers are (almost) as important as parents

My Monday Metrical Musings #12

Rocking Chair Photo by Mohammad Sanaei on Pexels.com There he sitsIn his father's old rocking chairBobbing back and forthBack and forthBack and forth. It takes him backTo happier timesOr maybe they were justInnocent times?When the world seemed easyAnd when 'gay' meant 'happy'. "I feel your pain, son"His dad once told himBut he didn't reallyThough the … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #12

My Monday Metrical Musings #9

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash The Colour of Monday is Blue "Will you pack me a snackFor Tuesday?""Sure, my son."I always say "Will you drive over humpsAlong the way?""Of course dear one"I always say "Will there be school Wednesday, Thursday, FridayToo?""Yes, my son.And don't forgetMonday is blue!" (Cos that's his favourite colourThe colour of … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #9

“Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

I know I’m supposed to offer grace, but I can’t. Not now, not yet.  Not when I’m still living through my Waterloo; my daily dose of stay home parenting blues.What am I talking about you ask? I’m talking about “model breadwinning fathers" Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash There are many such "model breadwinning fathers", … Continue reading “Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #1 The Hypocrites

My dear "Ku-Ju-Chi-fu-fees", You're into the swinging 20s. Congrats! But... In the blink of an eye, you have pocketed two earthly decades and are launching yourselves into your third. Congrats! Now's a good time to talk to you about human relationships. But rather than texting you like we always do, I thought I'd write you … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #1 The Hypocrites

What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention

Living with my son's autism from day to day teaches me many things - provided I bother to pay attention. Provided I bother to learn. Sadly, I don't. Not enough anyway. For me, arguably the greatest hurdle parenting him all these years, has been to try and come to terms with his fixations. How to … Continue reading What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention