I know I’m supposed to offer grace, but I can’t. Not now, not yet. Not when I’m still living through my Waterloo; my daily dose of stay home parenting blues.What am I talking about you ask? I’m talking about “model breadwinning fathers" Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash There are many such "model breadwinning fathers", … Continue reading “Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers
My dear "Ku-Ju-Chi-fu-fees", You're into the swinging 20s. Congrats! But... In the blink of an eye, you have pocketed two earthly decades and are launching yourselves into your third. Congrats! Now's a good time to talk to you about human relationships. But rather than texting you like we always do, I thought I'd write you … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #1 The Hypocrites
Living with my son's autism from day to day teaches me many things - provided I bother to pay attention. Provided I bother to learn. Sadly, I don't. Not enough anyway. For me, arguably the greatest hurdle parenting him all these years, has been to try and come to terms with his fixations. How to … Continue reading What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention
As parents, we've all heard this adage more times than we care to count: For kids, LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E. Cos spending time with them is the best sign that we the parents care and love them. Many have even gone on to qualify that it's not just about Quality time; it's also about Quantity … Continue reading To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….
There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night: "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!" Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance
BANG!That moment just before impact seemed to almost slow to a crawl, like a slow-motion replay, as I watched in utter jaw-dropping disbelief.The way a spectator at an F1 race would watch as a race car suddenly goes off course and flips.I knew what was about to happen, but I was powerless to stop it … Continue reading How a car accident exposed my ‘inner engine’
So what to say about this coming Sunday, my 11th anniversary of celebrating Father's Day as a dad? After all, it's an unfinished journey, so maybe I should wait a few more years to say something meaningful? Or when the kids have all grown up and flown the coop? Yet, as I turn 50 in … Continue reading Please Lord, may I have 50 more Father’s Day?!
Ever since I became a father, I couldn't help but notice that I've become hopelessly drawn to stories and films that revolve around the whole father-son, brother-brother relationship. One such recently came on the silver screen and I was glad for the chance to bring my boys to watch it. Best part was, thanks to … Continue reading Film Review: Fathers-Sons, Brothers in Arms – ONWARD has it all!
Watching a play about a son's impending mental breakdown and his parents' powerlessness to help him probably wasn't the most ideal way to celebrate International Women's Day (IWD). Plus my wife and I watched the afternoon matinee version on the 7th, and not today, the 8th of March. So the connection to IWD was even … Continue reading On International Women’s Day, one father’s take on ‘The Son’