“Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

I know I’m supposed to offer grace, but I can’t. Not now, not yet.  Not when I’m still living through my Waterloo; my daily dose of stay home parenting blues.What am I talking about you ask? I’m talking about “model breadwinning fathers" Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash There are many such "model breadwinning fathers", … Continue reading “Model breadwinning fathers” make stay home dads look like losers

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #1 The Hypocrites

My dear "Ku-Ju-Chi-fu-fees", You're into the swinging 20s. Congrats! But... In the blink of an eye, you have pocketed two earthly decades and are launching yourselves into your third. Congrats! Now's a good time to talk to you about human relationships. But rather than texting you like we always do, I thought I'd write you … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #1 The Hypocrites

What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention

Living with my son's autism from day to day teaches me many things - provided I bother to pay attention. Provided I bother to learn. Sadly, I don't. Not enough anyway. For me, arguably the greatest hurdle parenting him all these years, has been to try and come to terms with his fixations. How to … Continue reading What car rides with Caleb taught me about autism and attention

To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….

As parents, we've all heard this adage more times than we care to count: For kids, LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E. Cos spending time with them is the best sign that we the parents care and love them. Many have even gone on to qualify that it's not just about Quality time; it's also about Quantity … Continue reading To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….

How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night:    "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!"    Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper    properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

Film Review: Fathers-Sons, Brothers in Arms – ONWARD has it all!

Ever since I became a father, I couldn't help but notice that I've become hopelessly drawn to stories and films that revolve around the whole father-son, brother-brother relationship. One such recently came on the silver screen and I was glad for the chance to bring my boys to watch it. Best part was, thanks to … Continue reading Film Review: Fathers-Sons, Brothers in Arms – ONWARD has it all!

On International Women’s Day, one father’s take on ‘The Son’

Watching a play about a son's impending mental breakdown and his parents' powerlessness to help him probably wasn't the most ideal way to celebrate International Women's Day (IWD). Plus my wife and I watched the afternoon matinee version on the 7th, and not today, the 8th of March. So the connection to IWD was even … Continue reading On International Women’s Day, one father’s take on ‘The Son’