Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #11 The “Personals”

Hi boys Surprise Surprise! I'm back with my next email sooner than expected. Could be some kind of momentum built up from my last email. Also, I'm motivated by the fact that this series on "The Toxic 12" is almost at an end, so I'm definitely looking forward to finally wrapping it up. Bet you … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #11 The “Personals”

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #10 The “Professionals”

Hi boys Didn't think you'll get this latest "toxic" email so soon again did you? See, your dad is capable of keeping his word. I've kept this one in the back burners for quite a while, but the time has come now to spill the beans on one of two adult working world's biggest "liars" … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #10 The “Professionals”

Do I say “my son HAS autism” or “my son IS autistic”? It’s really up to him

Photo by Alireza Attari on Unsplash It was rather unexpected. There we were, at what was only our third or fourth meeting in 2019. As mentioned in an earlier post, this rag-tag bunch of fathers who have special needs children, were still getting to know each other. Gathering to bond over shared parenting experiences and … Continue reading Do I say “my son HAS autism” or “my son IS autistic”? It’s really up to him

Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

Photo by MD Duran on Unsplash This is a cautionary tale about what happens when men come together. Cautionary, at least, for men like me who are more into 'being' than 'doing'. Let me explain. I still remember the meetings. A few of us fathers with special needs children started coming together in 2019 to … Continue reading Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #9 The Non-finishers

Hey boys I'm sorry. This is becoming a habit for me, isn't it? Since my last post on this series, two months have elapsed! I think it's a new record. It's just that so much has been occupying my mind of late, with writing ideas pouring forth like water from a busted dam. I can … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #9 The Non-finishers

“Happy Valentines Day son!” – Letter to him when the time comes

Happy Valentines Day, son!Yes, your dear old man can't help but notice that February 14 is here again.Since you're now of age to date, I thought it's high time I shared my Valentines Day experience with you, in hopes it'll help you navigate the sea of love.I remember well the stress I had as a … Continue reading “Happy Valentines Day son!” – Letter to him when the time comes

Brothers are (almost) as important as parents

Of the few sparks to be found from this still-ongoing global pandemic, one that's definitely making it into my books was watching my sons grow closer to each other as brothers. If nothing else, it made me see anew the plus point of having both my kids being of the same gender, born a mere … Continue reading Brothers are (almost) as important as parents

A “Re-United States of America” – it’s what I want for my kids

This is my first political commentary (sort of) on America, and if sticks and stones should come break my bones after detractors read this, then (gulp) I think it'll be my last one too! But before you say anything, let me be crystal clear. I'm no political pundit. For most of my life, I avoided … Continue reading A “Re-United States of America” – it’s what I want for my kids

Warning letter for the new school year – from an older, wiser me!

Hey man The new school year is underway and you're probably starting to feel the heat, am I right? Well, let's get straight to it and figure things out, shall we? Remember when J used to say that Primary 2 (P2) was the best year ever? Well, he's right. Cos the change from P2 to … Continue reading Warning letter for the new school year – from an older, wiser me!

“An Englishman in Bedok” – Letter to C as he turns 10

Dear C Earlier this week, on the way to school, you started humming along to Sting's "An Englishman in New York" on Spotify. But instead of "New York", you later replaced it with "Bedok", a town twice removed from where we live, and at least two million times removed from the Big Apple herself! When … Continue reading “An Englishman in Bedok” – Letter to C as he turns 10