Am I living a “low-desire life”? ABSOLUTELY!

Each time I go for a swim these past few years, I would complete just 20 laps. Usually finished in under 45 minutes, about two to three times a week. Some would say a leisurely life. Why 20 laps only? No rhyme or reason; I could probably do at least ten more if I felt … Continue reading Am I living a “low-desire life”? ABSOLUTELY!

Why has turning 51 made me wanna be a grandpa?

So what has celebrating another birthday yesterday meant for me, other than turning from 50 to 51? First and foremost, I have well and truly left my fortuitous 40's behind! Last year when I wrote about turning the "Big Five-O” and what it meant, I could still say tongue-in-cheek that I'm in my "late 40s". … Continue reading Why has turning 51 made me wanna be a grandpa?

The teacher who showed me how failure felt

Nearly four decades now since that eventful week, but the feeling remains as palpable as ever. I was in my first year at an all-boys secondary school. Barely 13, and struggling with the usual teenage issues. Adjusting to a new school environment. Dealing with triple the number of academic subjects and extracurricular activities. Traveling daily … Continue reading The teacher who showed me how failure felt

‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

On Father’s Day 2021, my musings on the losses and gains of being a stay home dad {A version of this post first appeared here in a local news publication Todayonline. Also, check out a reader's beautifully written and resonating response to my piece here.}When it comes to parenting, one truth remains today: Fathers are, … Continue reading ‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

Our first staycation in years!

This week, I'm taking a break from my usual Wednesday posting on Writing and Life. After four intense weeks of unpacking stuff I've learned about writing (from two years and 200 blog posts), I figured hey I've earned this break. Plus, I'm taking my family for our first staycation in years! Given how Covid's derailed … Continue reading Our first staycation in years!

Life Skills I Do Not Have #2 – Rest & Relax

Since resuming keyboard lessons in September, one of my many life skills pursuits, I've been finding the journey pretty much a roller coaster. Some days I would ascend to such heights of musicality I would surprise even myself; like the scenery you get at the peak of a roller coaster ride. Panoramic and breath-taking! Not … Continue reading Life Skills I Do Not Have #2 – Rest & Relax

Embracing my life story means sweating the small stuff!

Yes, I think it's okay now for me to say it. *Deep breath* I started going for counselling this year. Yes, that's right. I did. In fact, I probably should have done so a long time ago. At the start of 2021, I finally decided there's no shame in admitting I need help; only in … Continue reading Embracing my life story means sweating the small stuff!

My blog turns 2! (Part 2 of Commemorative)

Last week, I wrote the first of a two-part series on how my blog made it to its 2nd anniversary! The piece was generally positive, even exuberant in its tone if I do say so myself. After all, what's not to be exuberant about when it comes to celebrating anniversaries and milestones, right? Well, the … Continue reading My blog turns 2! (Part 2 of Commemorative)

Covid One Year On – let’s rethink BAU shall we?

A year ago yesterday, my country went into its first major lockdown following the Covid 19 pandemic pronounced by the WHO, and experienced by many nations worldwide. Yesterday, I completed my final vaccination jab against this history-making virus. I guess you can say I've sort of come full circle in these 12 months. Yet one … Continue reading Covid One Year On – let’s rethink BAU shall we?

Living and writing from the “in-between” moments

I hate this place. Sitting here staring blankly at the laptop screen, wondering what to say, what to type, what to create next. The truth, or at least some transcendent revelation, is what I hope to always post up and put down for posterity, for my loved ones, for the world. But what if "truth" … Continue reading Living and writing from the “in-between” moments