Three weeks ago I started a parenting mini-series. To share insights gleaned from workshops I attended this year on how to parent teens. I then followed it up with another entry a week later. That one discussed the emotional, biological, social and relationship changes teens undergo. I ended the piece by mentioning mechanisms that parents like me might incorporate … Continue reading What I learned from parenting workshops #3 — Adaptive mechanism 1: Respect & consideration
Last week I started this new parenting mini-series as a way to document my own learning journey on how to better parent my teenage son. Today, I continue on from there to talk about the myriad of changes that are happening irreversibly, and often imperceptibly, in him! And boy are there many changes indeed when … Continue reading What I learned from parenting workshops #2
One of the things I often hear the older generation tell me is that parenting courses or workshops were non-existent during their time. Instead they just 'learn on the job'. "See, we got through without attending a single parenting course. Yet you young whippersnappers turned out okay no? So why bother attending any?" Actually, I … Continue reading What I learned from parenting workshops #1 — Stages of psychosocial development
In the blink of an eye, my boys (and I) survived the first month of 2022. And what a month it's been! New books, uniforms, teachers and friends. Most of all, new routines and happenings. Looking back, this first month was pretty much all about these things, these adjustments. Some of them I saw coming. … Continue reading “Boys will be boys, don’t ask why.” Really?
Hey Sons! Happy New Year! Hopefully 2022 is going to be the year we see Covid become an endemic disease everywhere. More like the common cold rather than the never-ending pandemic it is now. But more importantly, this will be one major milestone year for you both. Not only are you approaching "teen-dom" , you're … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #8 — New school, new beginnings
Hey J Congrats on completing your Primary School Leaving Examinations (PSLE) this year! You're all set to start the new year of 2022 in the next phase of your educational journey in a secondary school of your choice. As your parents, we’re as over the moon as you are, but not for the usual reasons … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #6 — Choose LIFE, not PSLE!
Hey J my precious son, Since my first post about it, I'm getting both excited and nervous as I start planning our December staycay. Truth is, I've never in a million years thought I would be undertaking such an ambitious project -- to take us away for a father-son bonding retreat. Just us two. To … Continue reading Father-son bonding #2 — Rites of Passage
Son, congratulations on owning your first cell phone! You’ve proven yourself mature and responsible enough for us to entrust you with this modern-day device. Given that you have a new cell phone in your hands now, courtesy of your mom and me, we obviously trust you to make good decisions. So why are we making … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #5 — Our first family cell phone agreement
Hey J my precious son, First and foremost, CONGRATULATIONS! After six long years of primary school education, you're finally done with that Holy Grail of a gruelling national examination (the PSLE or Primary School Leaving Examinations). That which forever decides which secondary school you'll go to next year. Of course it's only the first of … Continue reading Father-son bonding #1 — “Now that exams are done, …”
The shrill delight in my youngest son's loud declaration reverberated across our home yesterday morning. C was emphatically reminding us that it was Children's Day in my land. Yet for some nebulous cosmic reason, what actually came to my mind when I heard him was a voice from another land instead. Or should I say, … Continue reading “Tomorrow I’ll miss you” — my son’s last Children’s Day