For a long time now, I've been mulling over this topic. That stay home dads are "invisible". Or rather, I didn't know I was mulling over it until an incident last month. Non-Stop Invisible Errands Are Par For The Cause Photo by Ondosan Sinaga on Pexels.com It was six am on the first Tuesday of … Continue reading Hard Truth: The Works of Stay Home Dads Are “Invisible”
Will You Ever Sing With Me My Son? As I watched this morningFrom the humble pewThis father-son combo Belting out a tuneI felt a tearTrickling down my cheekAs I wondered, sonWill that someday be you and me? My boy, as you grow older and furtherAway from me into maturityWill you ever consider getting on stageTo … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #250
Napping one afternoon earlier this week, I was succumbing to the drowsy effects of a cough mixture I had taken. Barely a few minutes into dreamland, I got a call on my mobile. It was my eldest. Dad, I'm in a bit of an emergency. Can you help me? Words that will wake any parent … Continue reading Yes, I’m A “Football Father.” And I Loathe The Sport!
I've been writing on and off for a while now about what I think community means. All because of my journey with fellow stay-at-home dads these past few years. Yet I never believed for even a second I was close to understanding it. So when an opportunity appeared last evening for me to attend a … Continue reading Understanding Community: My Ongoing Journey
14 on the 14th Son this will never happen again!So let's mark the day well yeah?Tomorrow, you're turning 14. On the 14th!Yet you look to me like you stopped timeTaller yes but the rest of you looks the sameLike you're still seven or nine. This year though marks a new milestoneSecondary school and more responsibilities.Son, … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #216
Hopes Dashed...Yet... All my daddy hopes for youMusicMoviesLiteratureStudiesConfidantesHobbiesMaturationEmpathyCuriosityConnectedness Dashed to the rocksShattered into a million shards of......nothing. I don't know when it happenedI don't know how it happenedI don't know why it happenedBut it happenedAnd I am completely and utterly Undone Do all parents everywhereGo through the same?I wish it was soSelfish I knowBut if … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #210
Two weeks ago, I posted about a group of dads I met. The group meets every month to talk about parenting stuff. Many of us are stay-at-home dads (referred to as SAHDs, pun fully and unfortunately intended). That status offers us unique perspectives of fathering many career-minded fathers who spend little time at home can't … Continue reading SAHDs Are NOT Secondary Caregivers!
Tomorrow is Father's Day and I wanted to take this time to acknowledge a special group of fathers I got to know since March this year. These wonderful gentlemen have given me new hope that maybe, even at this stage of my now five-year-journey as a stay home dad, it's still not too late to … Continue reading A community of non-traditional fathers
Two mornings ago, my wife and I sent C -- our youngest with autism -- to a three-day church camp. He was kicking and screaming in protest as usual. It's what he does every time there's a change in routine. After a while, I too felt like kicking and screaming, as my wife and I … Continue reading Fathering Softer #1 — “being” not “doing”
It's official. Since my last post on this, I've decided: I shall not call myself a "stay-at-home dad" anymore! In fact, technically speaking, I probably couldn't from the very start when I stepped away from a full-time career in 2018. While I had several weeks and months without any work or income thereafter, I did … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #14 — Am I still a stay-at-home dad? (Part 2)
