Photo by MD Duran on Unsplash This is a cautionary tale about what happens when men come together. Cautionary, at least, for men like me who are more into 'being' than 'doing'. Let me explain. I still remember the meetings. A few of us fathers with special needs children started coming together in 2019 to … Continue reading Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’
Dear C In the blink of an eye, you've moved up another primary school level. Congrats!! And your school even made the distinction very clear this time by moving you to a totally different campus. So, not only must you adjust to a new class with new friends and teachers, you have to adjust to … Continue reading How this stay-home-dad braved yet another first day of school.
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash The Colour of Monday is Blue "Will you pack me a snackFor Tuesday?""Sure, my son."I always say "Will you drive over humpsAlong the way?""Of course dear one"I always say "Will there be school Wednesday, Thursday, FridayToo?""Yes, my son.And don't forgetMonday is blue!" (Cos that's his favourite colourThe colour of … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #9
I'm not a good parent. In fact, I often display downright ugly parenting! Why? Because I'm prone to violence, even if nine out of ten times I never follow through with what I'm tempted to do. And as for that tenth time that I do follow through? Let's just say that after my son gets … Continue reading The truth about ugly parenting – Alternation
Photo by BROTE studio on Pexels.com That's right. You heard me. Today's International Men's Day! Well, all I can say is... WHAT??!! I mean we're all over the place when it comes to the women, right? There's the far more famous annual International Women's Day (IWD) on March 8th, which I wrote about before. Also, … Continue reading International MEN’S Day?! Today? Shut up!
There's something that happens to a parent when his child turns from a single-digit birthday to a double. At least it does for this parent. I'm finding out that as January 2021 approaches, when Caleb turns 10, I seem to be caught up with a feeling of increasing anxiety that I can't quite explain. All … Continue reading Three more months and Caleb will be 10. But really, my son with autism is more like 5!
Looking back, I guess we always suspected Caleb had special needs, which we later found out to be autism. This was a suspicion that we already sensed when he was a baby. He didn't sleep easily, drank milk with great difficulty, ate little, but cried a lot. Everyone we knew assured us a second child … Continue reading Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title
An editor approached me a couple of months back, asking if I would share with her readers my journey as a dad with a special needs child; in particular the period following my son's official ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) diagnosis. My first thought was: "Ok, sure. That diagnosis happened more than two years ago so … Continue reading “Three Wrongs Do Not An Essay Make” – How one memory derailed my writing plan
Yes, I did the unthinkable - I started a writer's group! Call it an itch that needed scratching. A thirst that needed quenching. But whatever you call it, just know that I'm pinning the blame for it solely on Covid-19. Or on the lonely journey of every writer. Or on a whim and a lark … Continue reading So I started a writer’s group. Now what?!
As parents, we've all heard this adage more times than we care to count: For kids, LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E. Cos spending time with them is the best sign that we the parents care and love them. Many have even gone on to qualify that it's not just about Quality time; it's also about Quantity … Continue reading To a child, LOVE’s not only spelled “T-I-M-E”; it’s also spelled….