Daily living with autism #1: It’s about small wins!

"Daddy, look!" It was a typical weekday evening, an hour before dinner time. That's when I usually take C for some outdoor play. What we in my family sometimes refer to as his "eye-care" time, away from home screens and out where nature and distant sights of the world await. The ground outside was fairly … Continue reading Daily living with autism #1: It’s about small wins!

On Children’s Day: Another stay home dad’s musings

I'm so pleased today to introduce a fellow stay home dad and his musings on Children's Day 2021 (celebrated today in my country). This is also my blog's very first guest post on parenting! Woo-hoo!! (For more in my blog on parenting, click here) Cliff Tam's a friend I got to know in June this … Continue reading On Children’s Day: Another stay home dad’s musings

‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

On Father’s Day 2021, my musings on the losses and gains of being a stay home dad {A version of this post first appeared here in a local news publication Todayonline. Also, check out a reader's beautifully written and resonating response to my piece here.}When it comes to parenting, one truth remains today: Fathers are, … Continue reading ‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

Hey boys This is it! We made it. The last email, in this long-running series that began more than six months ago, is finally here. So on the count of three, let's heave a collective sigh of relief shall we? One... Two... Three!!! Sighhhhhh.... Alright, now that we got that outta the way, let's recap … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

My blog turns 2! (Part 1 of commemorative)

YEAH ME! This time I did not forget the anniversary of my blog, unlike last year when I nearly did! And this time, since it's the second anniversary, I'm going to write not one but two commemorative posts! You know, it still amazes me how I've persisted this long. While two years may seem like … Continue reading My blog turns 2! (Part 1 of commemorative)

Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

Photo by MD Duran on Unsplash This is a cautionary tale about what happens when men come together. Cautionary, at least, for men like me who are more into 'being' than 'doing'. Let me explain. I still remember the meetings. A few of us fathers with special needs children started coming together in 2019 to … Continue reading Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

How this stay-home-dad braved yet another first day of school.

Dear C In the blink of an eye, you've moved up another primary school level. Congrats!! And your school even made the distinction very clear this time by moving you to a totally different campus. So, not only must you adjust to a new class with new friends and teachers, you have to adjust to … Continue reading How this stay-home-dad braved yet another first day of school.

My Monday Metrical Musings #9

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash The Colour of Monday is Blue "Will you pack me a snackFor Tuesday?""Sure, my son."I always say "Will you drive over humpsAlong the way?""Of course dear one"I always say "Will there be school Wednesday, Thursday, FridayToo?""Yes, my son.And don't forgetMonday is blue!" (Cos that's his favourite colourThe colour of … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #9

The truth about ugly parenting – Alternation

I'm not a good parent. In fact, I often display downright ugly parenting! Why? Because I'm prone to violence, even if nine out of ten times I never follow through with what I'm tempted to do. And as for that tenth time that I do follow through? Let's just say that after my son gets … Continue reading The truth about ugly parenting – Alternation