A Tragic Musing – More than words can say

Usually, I alternate my Saturday blogs strictly between the topics of autism and parenting. But this has been a week like no other here in our nation's history. And it's been a week that I suspect has been especially tough for those in their teens and twenties. On Monday morning, a 13 year old student … Continue reading A Tragic Musing – More than words can say

Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

Hey boys This is it! We made it. The last email, in this long-running series that began more than six months ago, is finally here. So on the count of three, let's heave a collective sigh of relief shall we? One... Two... Three!!! Sighhhhhh.... Alright, now that we got that outta the way, let's recap … Continue reading Email circa 2031: My dear sons, beware “The Toxic 12” – #12 The PR Snobs

From ‘Aware’ to ‘Accept’ – my unfinished autism journey

[An edited version of this post first appeared here.] C: “Mister Miss Fairy!” Me: “Carrots and Potatoes…” His older brother: “…with Beef Stew!” These are words my sons and I say to each other whenever C is upset, feels threatened, or thinks he’s in trouble. And to diffuse the situation and reassure him, I would respond with the … Continue reading From ‘Aware’ to ‘Accept’ – my unfinished autism journey

“Happy Valentines Day son!” – Letter to him when the time comes

Happy Valentines Day, son!Yes, your dear old man can't help but notice that February 14 is here again.Since you're now of age to date, I thought it's high time I shared my Valentines Day experience with you, in hopes it'll help you navigate the sea of love.I remember well the stress I had as a … Continue reading “Happy Valentines Day son!” – Letter to him when the time comes

Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

Looking back, I guess we always suspected Caleb had special needs, which we later found out to be autism. This was a suspicion that we already sensed when he was a baby.  He didn't sleep easily, drank milk with great difficulty, ate little, but cried a lot. Everyone we knew assured us a second child … Continue reading Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night:    "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!"    Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper    properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

Please Lord, may I have 50 more Father’s Day?!

So what to say about this coming Sunday, my 11th anniversary of celebrating Father's Day as a dad? After all, it's an unfinished journey, so maybe I should wait a few more years to say something meaningful? Or when the kids have all grown up and flown the coop? Yet, as I turn 50 in … Continue reading Please Lord, may I have 50 more Father’s Day?!

This is It! 4 Things that Define My Blog “kelvinsmusings”

Yep, this is it! Most would say this ought to have been the first thing I wrote when I started my blog 14 months ago. Funny then that only after more than a year of blogging, I'm finally doing it today! Now just to be fair to me, I did mention what my blog was … Continue reading This is It! 4 Things that Define My Blog “kelvinsmusings”

7 areas I pray for every day for my firstborn

In a previous post, I shared the points I prayed for every day when it comes to Caleb, my youngest who has moderate autism. But I realize now that I would be remiss if I don't also share likewise for my neurotypical firstborn. So here I go. In many ways, I have been richly blessed … Continue reading 7 areas I pray for every day for my firstborn

Thank you, COVID-19, for strengthening the bond between my sons

One of the best takeaways during this COVID-19 global crisis would certainly have to be the opportunity for me to see my sons grow closer to each other as we stayed home. It also made me see anew the plus point of having both my kids being of the same gender. For the longest time, … Continue reading Thank you, COVID-19, for strengthening the bond between my sons