Looking back, I guess we always suspected Caleb had special needs, which we later found out to be autism. This was a suspicion that we already sensed when he was a baby. He didn't sleep easily, drank milk with great difficulty, ate little, but cried a lot. Everyone we knew assured us a second child … Continue reading Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title
There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night: "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!" Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance
So what to say about this coming Sunday, my 11th anniversary of celebrating Father's Day as a dad? After all, it's an unfinished journey, so maybe I should wait a few more years to say something meaningful? Or when the kids have all grown up and flown the coop? Yet, as I turn 50 in … Continue reading Please Lord, may I have 50 more Father’s Day?!
Yep, this is it! Most would say this ought to have been the first thing I wrote when I started my blog 14 months ago. Funny then that only after more than a year of blogging, I'm finally doing it today! Now just to be fair to me, I did mention what my blog was … Continue reading This is It! 4 Things that Define My Blog “kelvinsmusings”
In a previous post, I shared the points I prayed for every day when it comes to Caleb, my youngest who has moderate autism. But I realize now that I would be remiss if I don't also share likewise for my neurotypical firstborn. So here I go. In many ways, I have been richly blessed … Continue reading 7 areas I pray for every day for my firstborn
One of the best takeaways during this COVID-19 global crisis would certainly have to be the opportunity for me to see my sons grow closer to each other as we stayed home. It also made me see anew the plus point of having both my kids being of the same gender. For the longest time, … Continue reading Thank you, COVID-19, for strengthening the bond between my sons
Every parent has aspirations and dreams for their children, spoken or otherwise. I'm no exception. What is an exception though is the stuff I hope for when it comes to Caleb. The majority of the world of parents with neurotypical kids can more than reasonably hope for their offsprings to grow up strong, smart, independent, … Continue reading I pray weekly for my special boy in these 7 areas – for his future
Covid19 has taken over my life in unexpected ways. Tho I'm not confined because I'm on a stay home notice, and I’m not being quarantined, I am a lot more easily irritable and agitated these days. For a while, I couldn't quite understand why. But now I think I do. I seriously suspect that this … Continue reading Three reasons why Covid19 agitates introverts like me
Want to know how mind-slammingly hard it can be living everyday with kids? How about with a kid that 'gets it' but also doesn’t ‘get it’? Let me explain. You see, it’s kind of hard working with children who have special needs like my Caleb. With him, it’s always a fight to transition to doing … Continue reading Living with Daily Defiance
Let's face it: perfectly normal dads everywhere would openly admit to it, if they knew we'd keep this a secret from the rest of the macho world. And what secret might that be? Well, dads all love a soppy tribute to fathers, be it a song or a dance or, in this case, a film. … Continue reading Film Review: Looking Up – A Soppy Tribute to Fathers, But I Love It!