From ‘Aware’ to ‘Accept’ – my unfinished autism journey

[An edited version of this post first appeared here.] C: “Mister Miss Fairy!” Me: “Carrots and Potatoes…” His older brother: “…with Beef Stew!” These are words my sons and I say to each other whenever C is upset, feels threatened, or thinks he’s in trouble. And to diffuse the situation and reassure him, I would respond with the … Continue reading From ‘Aware’ to ‘Accept’ – my unfinished autism journey

“Happy Valentines Day son!” – Letter to him when the time comes

Happy Valentines Day, son!Yes, your dear old man can't help but notice that February 14 is here again.Since you're now of age to date, I thought it's high time I shared my Valentines Day experience with you, in hopes it'll help you navigate the sea of love.I remember well the stress I had as a … Continue reading “Happy Valentines Day son!” – Letter to him when the time comes

Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

Looking back, I guess we always suspected Caleb had special needs, which we later found out to be autism. This was a suspicion that we already sensed when he was a baby.  He didn't sleep easily, drank milk with great difficulty, ate little, but cried a lot. Everyone we knew assured us a second child … Continue reading Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night:    "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!"    Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper    properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance

I pray weekly for my special boy in these 7 areas – for his future

Every parent has aspirations and dreams for their children, spoken or otherwise. I'm no exception. What is an exception though is the stuff I hope for when it comes to Caleb. The majority of the world of parents with neurotypical kids can more than reasonably hope for their offsprings to grow up strong, smart, independent, … Continue reading I pray weekly for my special boy in these 7 areas – for his future