Daily living with autism #1: It’s about small wins!

"Daddy, look!" It was a typical weekday evening, an hour before dinner time. That's when I usually take C for some outdoor play. What we in my family sometimes refer to as his "eye-care" time, away from home screens and out where nature and distant sights of the world await. The ground outside was fairly … Continue reading Daily living with autism #1: It’s about small wins!

Do I say “my son HAS autism” or “my son IS autistic”? It’s really up to him

Photo by Alireza Attari on Unsplash It was rather unexpected. There we were, at what was only our third or fourth meeting in 2019. As mentioned in an earlier post, this rag-tag bunch of fathers who have special needs children, were still getting to know each other. Gathering to bond over shared parenting experiences and … Continue reading Do I say “my son HAS autism” or “my son IS autistic”? It’s really up to him

Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

Photo by MD Duran on Unsplash This is a cautionary tale about what happens when men come together. Cautionary, at least, for men like me who are more into 'being' than 'doing'. Let me explain. I still remember the meetings. A few of us fathers with special needs children started coming together in 2019 to … Continue reading Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

My Monday Metrical Musings #16

Autism happens daily Autism happens dailyIt never goes away.Ten years have passed soDon't tell me It'll leave.That you got no right to say. For I see itI live itI breathe itEvery single day. With my sonHis toy road humpsSprawled on this floor Or that tableEvery which way. Autism happens dailyIt never goes away.We're still learning … Continue reading My Monday Metrical Musings #16

ASD Book Review #3: “Dad, is my ‘exile’ into the land of autism eternal?”

This is potentially the "mother" of all autism questions! And were you to ask me if there was another more frightening one for a parent, I honestly can't think of it right now. All I know is that this question never crossed my mind before. Not until I came across it recently in an account … Continue reading ASD Book Review #3: “Dad, is my ‘exile’ into the land of autism eternal?”

Connecting Caregivers – finally meeting a very special & overdue need

A small speck in the universe Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com Being part of something bigger is what everyone's experienced at least once in our lives, whether we recognise it then or not. In fact, I would go so far as to say that it's part of every human's DNA that we aspire towards being … Continue reading Connecting Caregivers – finally meeting a very special & overdue need

Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

Looking back, I guess we always suspected Caleb had special needs, which we later found out to be autism. This was a suspicion that we already sensed when he was a baby.  He didn't sleep easily, drank milk with great difficulty, ate little, but cried a lot. Everyone we knew assured us a second child … Continue reading Staying home for my son with autism – one dad’s life outside of a job title

“Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!

11 Jul 2030 Hey Dad, How's it goin'? This year 2030, you turn 60. It’s such a big number I can’t even comprehend what it’s like living so long! How do you do it, Dad? Hahaha... Anyway, happy birthday! I hope you liked the hand-drawn birthday card I gave you last week. Remember when I … Continue reading “Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!