“I apologise for being a jerk.” Making amends after three decades

Since I started on my stay home parenting journey, my social circle had shrunk and I find myself often wondering about the fluidity and fragility of friendship. How some friends stay put in your life while others leave, returning once in a blue moon or not at all. And then there are those from your … Continue reading “I apologise for being a jerk.” Making amends after three decades

After two years of Covid, people now prefer to mask up!

This week mask, oops I mean, marks the second anniversary of Covid restrictions in many parts of the world, including mine. So I started to wonder. What had I taken for granted before the nationwide Covid-19 lockdown back in April 2020, which my government cleverly called a "circuit breaker"? (A euphemism to mask what was … Continue reading After two years of Covid, people now prefer to mask up!

Parenting Motivations #6 — Choose LIFE, not PSLE!

Hey J Congrats on completing your Primary School Leaving Examinations (PSLE) this year! You're all set to start the new year of 2022 in the next phase of your educational journey in a secondary school of your choice. As your parents, we’re as over the moon as you are, but not for the usual reasons … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #6 — Choose LIFE, not PSLE!

Life Skills I Do Not Have #4 — Thanksgiving

Tomorrow, many celebrate Thanksgiving in the United States, where it is a public holiday and families travel across the land to reunite and celebrate the occasion together. Depending on which website you surf, anywhere from five to over 15 other countries in the world have their own version of Thanksgiving too. Not so here in … Continue reading Life Skills I Do Not Have #4 — Thanksgiving

Is the Olympic medal or mettle the reward? Neither!

The pandemic-delayed Tokyo 2020 Olympics ended three days ago, but I suspect we're still not grasping its significance. The world argued for months whether it should proceed or not, given that the pandemic showed no signs of relenting. Many who were for it were clearly pleased that the Olympics' governing body (the IOC) held fast … Continue reading Is the Olympic medal or mettle the reward? Neither!

To slow down time and memory loss? Try ichigo ichie!

By now, these are all-too-familiar scenes in my daily life. I could be walking out from one room in my house en route to another. Or washing my cup right after breakfast. Or I'm whisking from one opened computer window to another on my laptop. Whilst walking, washing or whisking, an idea, memory, random thought, … Continue reading To slow down time and memory loss? Try ichigo ichie!

‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

On Father’s Day 2021, my musings on the losses and gains of being a stay home dad {A version of this post first appeared here in a local news publication Todayonline. Also, check out a reader's beautifully written and resonating response to my piece here.}When it comes to parenting, one truth remains today: Fathers are, … Continue reading ‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

2020 Reflections & Musings #3 of 4 – “When he plays piano in the dark…”

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com "Okay so you need to isolate the energy to your finger tips and hit those piano keys with that, not with your wrist or arm power." "Isolate", he tells me. Right. But doesn't he know? When you've never given a second thought as to where your hands typically derive … Continue reading 2020 Reflections & Musings #3 of 4 – “When he plays piano in the dark…”