I don't get it. I just don't get it. It feels like we've been living with Caleb forever now. And for most of that time, we've also lived with his autism and the challenges they entail. By now, I should know all too well that he is who he is, and my role as his … Continue reading Caleb’s school morning routine – a masterclass in ‘fixing’ his dad
11 Jul 2030 Hey Dad, How's it goin'? This year 2030, you turn 60. It’s such a big number I can’t even comprehend what it’s like living so long! How do you do it, Dad? Hahaha... Anyway, happy birthday! I hope you liked the hand-drawn birthday card I gave you last week. Remember when I … Continue reading “Thanks, Dad. Here’s why” – A letter from my son, written….in 2030!
There are three things you'll typically hear in my household on any given day or night:   "Caleb! Is it (his chin) dry? C'mon Caleb, swallow your saliva, please. Look, your bib's all wet!!"   Night: "Caleb! Come and shh-shh (pee) now before bedtime. Then wear your diaper  properly before you get into bed. … Continue reading How soaked bibs, leaked diapers and supervised showers are my daily lessons in acceptance
So what to say about this coming Sunday, my 11th anniversary of celebrating Father's Day as a dad? After all, it's an unfinished journey, so maybe I should wait a few more years to say something meaningful? Or when the kids have all grown up and flown the coop? Yet, as I turn 50 in … Continue reading Living in my 50s #2 – Please Lord, may I have 50 more Father’s Day?!
Yep, this is it! Most would say this ought to have been the first thing I wrote when I started my blog 14 months ago. Funny then that only after more than a year of blogging, I'm finally doing it today! Now just to be fair to me, I did mention what my blog was … Continue reading This is It! 4 Things that Define My Blog “kelvinsmusings”
One of the best takeaways during this COVID-19 global crisis would certainly have to be the opportunity for me to see my sons grow closer to each other as we stayed home. It also made me see anew the plus point of having both my kids being of the same gender. For the longest time, … Continue reading Thank you, COVID-19, for strengthening the bond between my sons
Every parent has aspirations and dreams for their children, spoken or otherwise. I'm no exception. What is an exception though is the stuff I hope for when it comes to Caleb. The majority of the world of parents with neurotypical kids can more than reasonably hope for their offsprings to grow up strong, smart, independent, … Continue reading I pray weekly for my special boy in these 7 areas – for his future
Gosh, I almost missed my blog's first anniversary! Can't blame me though; it's been a month filled with anniversaries. My wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary on the 1st (nope it's no April Fool's joke), and our eldest boy turned 11 on the 8th, inching closer to the potentially tremulous teenage years. In … Continue reading Why I began this – a celebration (and reminder) on my blog’s 1st anniversary
It's hard to read something like this and not get just a teensy weensy bit annoyed. In case you don't feel like clicking the above link and be transported to another web page, let me do a quick summary here for you. This was a piece published some time ago in the form of a … Continue reading His Autism’s “Cured” – Sowing false hope instead of acceptance & inclusion
Want to know how mind-slammingly hard it can be living everyday with kids? How about with a kid that 'gets it' but also doesn’t ‘get it’? Let me explain. You see, it’s kind of hard working with children who have special needs like my Caleb. With him, it’s always a fight to transition to doing … Continue reading Living with Daily Defiance
