How one fellow stay home dad emancipated me!

A recent incident reminded me that only a fellow stay home dad can truly understand another. One minute a fellow stay home dad and I were catching up over a cuppa to share our respective journeys minding our kids at home. The next minute I was bawling right there in front of my bewildered friend! … Continue reading How one fellow stay home dad emancipated me!

Daily living with autism #4 — A bus ride to Neverland

Yesterday was the last day of the week-long March school holidays, so we figured let's take C for a bus ride. Other than a forgettable morning hike up north three days ago, mired by sweltering heat and a less-than-scenic route, we had spent most of the week at home as the boys completed holiday homework … Continue reading Daily living with autism #4 — A bus ride to Neverland

Autism advocacy #2 — To label or not to label?

Should a person with an invisible disability (PWID) like autism wear a visible identity label in public? So asked a forum contributor in the local dailies. In her letter that was published yesterday, Ms Amy LOH Chee Seen wondered if it would help to stick a label or some sign on a PWID. That way, … Continue reading Autism advocacy #2 — To label or not to label?

Autism advocacy #1 — It starts with enabling

When it comes to helping those in need, I believe it boils down to these four words: Enabling. Empowering. Empathising. Embracing. How did I come to this conclusion? Well, two days ago I joined a nationwide focus group forum to contribute ideas for the new Enabling Master Plan (EMP) 2030. It was the last in … Continue reading Autism advocacy #1 — It starts with enabling

Daily living with autism #3 — School just got harder!

"Daddy, I don't want to go to school!" Words I haven't heard in a long while suddenly rang in my ears. Like some Back to the Future deja vu time loop! What's going on?! I turned around to see my youngest with a face already turning a steady red to match his tear-stained eyes. "Oh … Continue reading Daily living with autism #3 — School just got harder!

A plea for caregiving fathers of special needs kids

[An edited version of this post first appeared here] "No Lord! Not again! This can't be happening..." These words blazed across my brain like a lightning bolt out of the blue. Last Friday, the bodies of twin boys were recovered in a canal not far from a park and playground. (At the time of this … Continue reading A plea for caregiving fathers of special needs kids

Daily living with autism #2: Surmounting milestones

When parenting a boy with disability, one constant concern is this: will he clear age-appropriate milestones in time? I'm no different. With my autistic son, it's always at the back of my mind, this fear he won't mature in time to enjoy what his neuro-typical peers take for granted. These could be things like confidently … Continue reading Daily living with autism #2: Surmounting milestones

Telling My Story of C’s Diagnosis 

Last week, I embarked on a two-month long training programme. The programme's meant to equip me as a 'befriender' or care buddy to other caregivers of children with special needs. Those who need not just the usual professionals like counsellors, therapists, doctors, special needs teachers, or social workers for their children; but also someone who … Continue reading Telling My Story of C’s Diagnosis 

Daily living with autism #1: It’s about small wins!

"Daddy, look!" It was a typical weekday evening, an hour before dinner time. That's when I usually take C for some outdoor play. What we in my family sometimes refer to as his "eye-care" time, away from home screens and out where nature and distant sights of the world await. The ground outside was fairly … Continue reading Daily living with autism #1: It’s about small wins!

How home-based learning is like “realpolitik”!

Former US President Theodore Roosevelt said the best foreign policy was "speak softly and carry a big stick." Talk about a succinct way to define realpolitik and gunboat diplomacy! I often find that to be true too when it comes to home based learning (HBL) with my son C; at least when it comes to … Continue reading How home-based learning is like “realpolitik”!