The truth about ugly parenting – Alternation

I’m not a good parent. In fact, I often display downright ugly parenting! Why? Because I’m prone to violence, even if nine out of ten times I never follow through with what I’m tempted to do. And as for that tenth time that I do follow through? Let’s just say that after my son gets … Continue reading The truth about ugly parenting – Alternation

Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

This is a cautionary tale about what happens when men come together. Cautionary, at least, for men like me who are more into ‘being’ than ‘doing’. Let me explain. I still remember the meetings. A few of us fathers with special needs children started coming together in 2019 to discuss ways we could reach out … Continue reading Even with special needs dads, it’s still about men ‘doing’ not ‘being’

To slow down time and memory loss? Try ichigo ichie!

By now, these are all-too-familiar scenes in my daily life. I could be walking out from one room in my house en route to another. Or washing my cup right after breakfast. Or I’m whisking from one opened computer window to another on my laptop. Whilst walking, washing or whisking, an idea, memory, random thought, … Continue reading To slow down time and memory loss? Try ichigo ichie!

‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

On Father’s Day 2021, my musings on the losses and gains of being a stay home dad {A version of this post first appeared here in a local news publication Todayonline. Also, check out a reader’s beautifully written and resonating response to my piece here.} When it comes to parenting, one truth remains today: Fathers … Continue reading ‘Worth in the Hearth’ — A New Masculine Identity?

Our Autism Enabling Masterplan – High Priority Area #1 of 6

[Below’s my 200th blog post! Yeah me!! If you’re new to my writings, feel free to learn more about me here] Last week, I introduced the Autism Enabling Masterplan (AEM), meant for the local Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) community. It was developed and launched in January this year by multiple parties supporting the community. The … Continue reading Our Autism Enabling Masterplan – High Priority Area #1 of 6

Parenting Motivations #1 – Watching kids blossom through public speaking

Of late I’ve been thinking about public speaking and what motivates me as a parent. In particular, I’ve been pondering this past week whether my motivation to teach students public speaking, and my motivation to parent, are one and the same. And I’m inclined to say “Yes”! Well, actually the art of public speaking is … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #1 – Watching kids blossom through public speaking

Telling My Story of C’s Diagnosis 

Last week, I embarked on a two-month long training programme. The programme’s meant to equip me as a ‘befriender’ or care buddy to other caregivers of children with special needs. Those who need not just the usual professionals like counsellors, therapists, doctors, special needs teachers, or social workers for their children; but also someone who … Continue reading Telling My Story of C’s Diagnosis 

Our Autism Enabling Masterplan – High Priority Area #4 of 6

Yep. It’s true. This ASD series just gets harder and harder to write. Why? Since blogging about our nation’s Autism Enabling Masterplan (AEM) a month ago, my overwhelming sense that this is something bigger than any one of us advocating, partnering, and supporting those in the Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) community, has just become more … Continue reading Our Autism Enabling Masterplan – High Priority Area #4 of 6

To be a better caregiver, I must flip my day for night!

As a parent and caregiver, I don’t always realise it until my sons are fast asleep at night, so busy am I throughout the day fleeting to meet first one child’s needs, then the other’s (and back again!). But when the lights are out and my boys are finally in bed, I start to feel … Continue reading To be a better caregiver, I must flip my day for night!

Parenting Motivations #4 – Sibling Solidarity

One thing that warms the heart of any parent is the opportunity to watch their children happily playing with each other. For me, it’s a combination of joy as well as relief. Of late, the latter mostly, because that means I can finally take a break! Sigh…caring for C is a constant roller-coaster, one I’ve … Continue reading Parenting Motivations #4 – Sibling Solidarity