Dear Patience I need a healthy dose of you this season. Because I’m not a good parent when it comes to coaching my autistic son during this exam season. Let me explain using just one of his school subjects by way of illustration. Weird Science! The topic we revised extensively this week was the one … Continue reading Daily living with autism #10: Science is hard!
There are moments in our lives where neither words nor videos can fully capture the joy they bring. But still, we try. Because we don’t ever want to forget. Like the first kiss. Or the first moment you become a parent. Or that moment your child first rides a two-wheel bike all by himself. Which … Continue reading Daily living with autism #9 – Core strength & Confidence
I know this is going to sound like a broken record because I’ve talked about math worksheets in past blog posts. But because it just happened two days ago on a hot and humid “homework afternoon”, and I ended up all hot and bothered, with my son C all scared and flustered, the memory is … Continue reading Daily Living with Autism #8 — Fractions that fracture
When parenting a boy with disability, one constant concern is this: will he clear age-appropriate milestones in time? I’m no different. With my autistic son, it’s always at the back of my mind, this fear he won’t mature in time to enjoy what his neuro-typical peers take for granted. These could be things like confidently … Continue reading Daily living with autism #2: Surmounting milestones
Let me start by saying I want to put the blame squarely on Covid, and the two years of possible intervention that it has robbed us of. But can I? Honestly? I’m afraid the answer isn’t all that clear. What was clear though, after a recent annual follow-up with my son’s assigned senior consultant at … Continue reading Daily living with autism #6 — Beginning again. Again!
This week, I was surprised by grief. I know that sounds rather ridiculous. Maybe even disrespectful though certainly, that’s not my intent. The funny thing was I didn’t even expect to feel that way at all! So what happened you ask? A steep learning curve Regular readers will know I have two sons. The youngest … Continue reading Daily living with autism #11 — Is grief love persevering?
Last week, the topic of love languages arose at a kid’s day camp my autistic son C attended. Spanning three days, it was part of our church’s holiday programme for those aged 7 to 12. It’s been two years since such camps were held (thanks to you-know-what), so my wife and I were definitely glad … Continue reading Daily living with autism #7– the 5 love languages
“Daddy, I don’t want to go to school!” Words I haven’t heard in a long while suddenly rang in my ears. Like some Back to the Future deja vu time loop! What’s going on?! I turned around to see my youngest with a face already turning a steady red to match his tear-stained eyes. “Oh … Continue reading Daily living with autism #3 — School just got harder!
Yesterday was the last day of the week-long March school holidays, so we figured let’s take C for a bus ride. Other than a forgettable morning hike up north three days ago, mired by sweltering heat and a less-than-scenic route, we had spent most of the week at home as the boys completed holiday homework … Continue reading Daily living with autism #4 — A bus ride to Neverland
“Daddy, look!” It was a typical weekday evening, an hour before dinner time. That’s when I usually take C for some outdoor play. What we in my family sometimes refer to as his “eye-care” time, away from home screens and out where nature and distant sights of the world await. The ground outside was fairly … Continue reading Daily living with autism #1: It’s about small wins!